Cheers for all your combined efforts, guys

It certainly helps having others helping out.. I've got it sussed now, with the help of a second relay - but here's the catch. On later model Subarus, the headlight wiring (like most things) goes through computers and relays. Hence, if you just used the high-beam wire from the headlight switch, the spotties would come on when you turned the car off (because that wire goes open-circuit when the computer and relays shut down).
Also, I needed to make mine + switching, because I'm running it with some other gear SO I found a 12v+ wire behind the instrument cluster that comes on with the headlight, and used it with the - high-beam trigger to run a little relay under the dash. This relay then delivers 12V+ to the spotlight switch!
This link should get you to my wiring diagram:
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